Research has shown that human beings have an innate need to belong. We would seek out and connect with other people through building relationships. However, unsatisfied and disconnected relationships would bring us rejection, disappointment and sadness.
The Relationship Room is conceived out of a desire to help individuals heal from the pain experienced through rejection and disappointment in their relationships and empower them to build everlasting healthy relationships throughout their lives.
At The Relationship Room, we offer counselling and coaching services not only to individuals, but also couples and families. We promise to journey together with you and your loved ones through the various challenges and disappointments in life.
At every step of your journey, we will help you heal from your pain as we search for a solution that will not only best suit your experiences, but will also empower you to move forward to where you want to be in your life, building everlasting relationships along the way.
Since young, Theresa experienced numerous rejections and disappointment in life. As a result, she lost her self-esteem and had a negative outlook in life. Through counselling, she experienced healing and empowerment to make positive connections with people around her. Having gone through this life-changing experience that allowed her to witness the healing power from counselling, Theresa decided to make a career switch to pursue counselling. It was a decision she has never regretted. Her greatest desire is to empower individuals to build positive connections in their lives.
Theresa currently has over a decade's worth of experience in counselling, after having journeyed with hundreds of individuals, couples, and families to deal constructively with challenges such as marital conflict, divorce, abuse, and depression. She was previously the Head, Counselling & Principal Counsellor at Focus on the Family Singapore and also the Head, Family Life & Senior Social Worker at Lakeside Family Centre.
Theresa draws on various psychotherapy techniques to support her clients in finding courage, resilience and inner strength to heal from their pain, as well as work towards growth and reconciliation in their personal lives and relationships. She does so through working extensively together with her clients, empowering and equipping them with skills to make healthy and lasting relationships. She is particularly interested in the area of couple and family counselling, as well as working with individuals struggling with issues from childhood.
Today, she is happily married for over a decade with a school-going daughter. Theresa is an Adjunct Lecturer in Psychology and Counselling at the Singapore University of Social Sciences and the College of Allied Educators. Besides counselling and teaching, she also provides clinical supervision for counsellors and social workers to develop their skills and knowledge.
Theresa has constantly been sought by the local media, such as The Straits Times, to give advice on courtship, marriage and parenting. She also appeared on 938LIVE’s “Parenting Made Easy” to share tips on how to have effective personal well-being, satisfying marriage and flourishing children.
I was all ready to quit after seven years of marriage. The endless communication breakdowns, deep seated misunderstandings and growing resentment in me has taken its toll.
I was pretty indifferent in the first couple of counselling sessions but gradually found myself opening up to the counsellor and then eventually, to the problems we faced on hand. For the first time in my marriage, I actually felt that my views were truly heard and taken into consideration without the conversation ending up in yet another ugly fight.
I attribute this to our counsellor, Theresa, whose kindness and empathy and excellent psychotherapy skills created a safe environment where we could air our grievances constructively. By the third or fourth session, I had a change in mindset and decided within myself to put in effort into the marriage to make it work.
We are a couple who has been married for almost a decade, with a young family. Challenges came as kids arrived, though they're such blessing, the demands they placed on time and the differences it raised caused frictions and arguments. Over time, these started to eat into our relationship. We were on the verge of giving up as emotions rose frequently and things do not seem to get better no matter how hard we tried.
At the suggestion of a church elder, we started going for counselling. I was sceptical at first as I have never experienced or tried counselling. We met Theresa, she is warm, attentive and neutral. These attributes put us at ease and helped us open up.
Looking back, what a blessing it has been. Six months later, we found ourselves easier with each other, able to resolve conflicts better. Specifically, we learnt to recognize and deal with patterns in our behaviours.